Hasan Ali – Honeymoon Period
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The speaker discusses the honeymoon period and how it can last for a long period of time. They encourage anyone who has had a single or multiple argument with their spouse to put their hands up and keep their marriage lasting for a long period of time. The speaker also provides a story about a man who put his hand up and said to his wife that if she ever gets angry at him, she will take him on herself until she calms down.
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Everyone who gets married, they have a period
called the honeymoon period.
Right? Honeymoon period, if you don't know what
it is, it brings a lot of smiles
to your face.
Okay? It's the best period that you've got
of
Everything's so wonderful. You look at her, you
just see smiles, and, you know, and she
looks at you and it's all about, oh,
this can just get better and better. Right?
Now there comes a day when the honeymoon
period got come you know, it it's over.
I'm gonna ask you guys. Right? If your
honeymoon if you're married and your honeymoon period
lasted
for 6 months, like, 100 like, basically everything's
hunky dory, everything's really happy. If you last
for 6 months, I'm gonna put your hands
up. Hands up.
My god, you guys are so depressed over
here, man.
I don't see 1 single hand up. What's
wrong?
For anyone if it lasted for a month
or more put your hands up.
Yalla, how will I'm only getting 2 3
hands? Yeah. What do you guys do man?
I'm not saying honeymoon as in, like, you
go on holiday for a month. I know
you guys haven't left England yet. I'm not
talking about that. I'm like you're talking about
your good days when you're like, you know,
all very nice and happy. My god. I
only see 2 hands, man. You guys what?
You're starting to fight from the 1st day
or something? Now let me ask, seriously, come
on. You know those happy days in the
beginning of marriage? If you have had those
happy days, hands up. Come on.
Marshall, that's good. Now you're being honest. Now
you're being honest. Right? Good. Anyone's honeymoon period
lasted for a year or more? Put your
hands up.
Good. Good. Good. That's good. That's good. Okay.
Now now look. It can last for a
long time. Now
1 day, what you're gonna do is 1
day you're gonna wake up and you are
gonna have some kind of argument or some
kind of disagreement with your spouse. It's natural.
It's gonna happen. I'm gonna ask a question
right now. Anyone who's basically been married for
more than 1 year and never had a
single argument with their wife or their husband?
Put your hands up right now.
No 1.
No 1. Okay? Actually actually can you see
that? Right? Because you see that there's gonna
be some kind of some kind of Then
I actually asked this question in the other
talks that I did, and 1 guy put
his hand up.
Right? 1 1 guy put And I said,
this was just yesterday or something, and it
looked like an elderly figure and I said,
I said, brother, how long have you been
married? He goes, 20 years.
I go, I go, you've never had a
had a argument ever? He goes,
a little bit little bit.
You can't put your hand up. Right? You've
had some kind of argument. Right? Come on.
You can't claim that. Anyway, there's another person
who put their hand up. It's a woman
from the background. She put their hand up
and said, sister, do you speak the same
language as your husband?
Do you live in the same country? Like,
or is it through Zoom? Basically, you know,
you get these situations where it can happen
for a year, it can happen for less
or more but, alhamdulillah, Allahu Baniyalah bless all
of you. May Allah give you long periods
of happiness. Say I'm in.
Right? But it's not gonna always last. Now,
what happens is This is the truth. It's
truth because most of you never put your
hands up, right? It's not gonna last. I'm
gonna let me give you a story
and this story is gonna tell you how
to keep your marriage
lasting
nice for a long period of time.
Okay? Without any arguments. Imam Ahmed Nuhamal Rahimullah,
he was married for for
for 40 years. He was about 60 years
old when his wife passed away.
He cried,
and his disciple said: Imam,
why are you crying? He said: I've had
a marriage with my wife,
a marriage with my wife for 40 years,
and we never had a single argument.
A single argument. They said, how? He said,
when we got married, I took it on
myself, and I said to my wife
that if you're if you're ever,
you know, mad at me, or you're, you
know, you're kind of angry at me, and
you're saying things I don't like, I'm gonna
take you on me to stay quiet until
you've calmed down, and then we'll speak.
And if if I ever get mad at
you, and if I say things to you
that you don't like, you're gonna take it
on yourself to stay quiet, and zip yourself
up
until
I calm down, and then we talk nicely.
This is the recipe
to make sure that you have a nice
marriage.
Insha'Allah, say Insha'Allah.